Resources – Getting Started & Next Steps

Resources – Getting Started & Next Steps

Managing Separation Anxiety as a Parent

Bearing and rearing your own child from birth is not just an important milestone in adult life that many people only dream of, as most of all, children can be our source of joy, pride, and fulfillment throughout their lives with us and even beyond that. While it is true that looking after your newborn is truly challenging and exhausting especially in the initial months where their sleeping pattern is typically irregular, having to go away after being with them for months can be an emotional challenge not just for the baby but also for parents.

At one point or another, parents will have to be away from their children especially if there is a job waiting for them, which can be even worse if they work in a farther location that means they will have to be gone for a long time, but even if this is without a doubt emotionally challenging for the parents, children and babies are more prone to worse effects, and can even cause trauma in worst cases. While it is of course unavoidable unless you have the luxury and resources to be a full time parent, parents can always do some steps to lighten the burden of anxiety and make each instance of separation acceptable for their children in order to turn it into a regular routine that they can eventually accept and not have to keep worrying about.

During their developmental stage in the first year of life, playing peek-a-boo with babies help them to understand that something or someone that goes away can come back, which is also important since this is also the stage where they start to build trust with people around them. If you are planning to leave for a significant period of time, leaving your baby with someone they know whom you can also trust when it comes to their welfare will help a lot in putting them at ease if ever they start to feel agitated once they notice you have been gone for a while already.

Speaking to them with a calm voice along with a reassuring body language is also helpful to put them at ease and for them to slowly understand the reason you need to be separated from them temporarily, no matter what age they are in. Making it a point to let them stay in a surrounding or home that they are already familiar with, along with their most favorite belongings like toys and blankets, while away from you, will also help to make them more comfortable.

The trust you build not just with your child but also between them and their caregiver is the most important when managing anxiety issues in time of separation. A couple of days or weeks before you actually love, practicing with your baby can give you a better idea of how they will really handle the situation, which will also allow you to see potential issues before they even happen or get worse.